Thursday, December 15, 2011

May Your Days be Merry and Bright

May Your Days Be Merry and Bright
11 December 2011

Well, last night was bright enough certainly with that full red moon engaging the sky and our eyes. It was gorgeous indeed. Life is beautiful. So how could it be that everyone I know seems to be in a dither lately? It has been several weeks now, this dither of a mood which none of us seems to understand or have reason to explain it. It is bothersome. This is The Season set aside specifically to be merry and bright, and tho lo and behold and surely He says unto thee: we should be merry and bright and thankful year-round, still, sometimes, here on earth Life seems like the subway, where we need a token, some reminder that there is a cost as our travel in this Life speeds under the currents of so many footsteps.

Could it be this is to remind us the extraordinary price we pay to be alive, for Life?
Life is a gift, sure, but it does not come without cost.

My Aunt Margaret died November 8th this year, 2011. This will be our first Christmas without her, as well as her husband, my dear Uncle Jack, who passed merely months prior. No, life is not free. Life takes time, and equally it will snatch time away from us just as quickly as it gives. Aunt Margaret was a mere 62-years-old, and Uncle Jack just a bit her elder. We all knew after they spent such a ‘long’ life together in the same home, the same bed, the same world, that it would not be long before they meet each other again in the great beyond, wherever that is. I knew. Yet I could not accept it, that she would pass. Still each day I see them together in my mind, alive, not just alive but skiing the Alps as they used to do. It is weird really. But who’s to say?

Take heed I plead unto myself, but I do not seem to be listening.

Without doubt, something in the air this time of year does make the season sparkle. Joy is sprinkled in every corner and curve, in every chilly breath we take, as if to amplify that special blessing of time, which only some of us are granted the privilege. Perhaps that is the case in your family too? Someone has passed, and you cannot forget their presence no matter what you do?

On the bright side, my favorite part of this season is to remind us of that child-like feeling of joy and eagerness, mirth and anticipation. That is the greatest gift of all.

My least favorite thing? That would have to be how life can be so short without warning. Even though in this case I had years knowing of the warning such a cancer sends; now, the warning is mute upon them meeting their end, on this earth, whereby I could touch them.

We know we must savor every day, and perhaps this is what creates our middle-aged indulgent sadness? By this time in life we have suffered Life’s incongruence. We have lost people we love, more than one, and it hurts. Period. Yes, it hurts. And yet as always as Pollyanna © would say, there is a bright side! J

The holiday season spells something magical, there is no doubt. Carpe Diem is to be carried to the extreme, now more than ever despite the strangely empty seats at our holiday table.

So what of the hustle and bustle of buying and spending? Save the economy? What does that have to do with the birth of Christ? So what of the anxious thoughts such as: Did I get my gifts mailed off to the correct addresses, and the etcetera of expectations of being the perfect Christmas person and guest? Do I want people to know I am the perfect Christmas person? Or, do I just want to be a good person year-round, loving my friends and family as I do?

I vow to let the season sing and bring its joy. Yet admittedly I am among those who have felt in a dither lately. Why? Beats me. Yet the fact remains We Must Overcome, and I vow to sing joy from the rooftops if I must, to let the season ring no matter the dithers this Life can and will bring.

It is unacceptable to me that I feel loss this year, despite the loss of my loved ones. It is not my first time, and I aim to discover some reason for this malady of mood-flavor I and my friends discuss.

It is important to note the company I keep, my friends, they are all people who are happy-people-by-nature, or else I could not participate in their relationships. I am weak that way:
Pessimism gives me the strength to run a 3-minute mile in the opposite direction of negativity.

So this makes it even more curious, why do some of us deem to feel so strangely ‘lost’ presently, in this joyous season? Why for example do I wake and feel my family, many of them gone to the great beyond … but yet they seem SO alive and with me still? Should that not be blessing enough? I feel it should. It could if I allow it. And so here and now I vow to allow it. Let the season ring!

Could it be that the heavenly stars do play so heavily upon our thoughts, just as it was in the time of The King of Joy, who suffered so, with whom He and we are all so surrounded, by stars and joy and suffering and most importantly, by overcoming it all?
Oye, lo, so so, so … so little I know. It is written in all the Christmas legends I know though…of how the stars told of this or that good tiding. All good tidings. This much I know and I cling to it. Cling.

So I am riddled with desire to feel the simple joy of the season this year. Child-like. It should be as simple as that, right? Child-like is gracious and heavenly.

So, it seems my only means to accomplish this is to temper my thoughts. Perhaps all we must change is our thoughts, especially if we tend toward a lowly feeling upon the Christmas season as odd as it is that so many people do feel lowly when ‘Tis the Season? Maybe our approach to the gala of the birth of The Savior is the only focus our families need? Perhaps to gratefulness only should we give heed, and to help others with less than we ourselves need?

So simple it seems, and yet my people and myself seem in a quandary of cold, dreary down-trodden-ness this Yuletide season. Among my family and friends I plead that we shall not let the darkness reign, indeed! Light prevails. Of this I am certain.

Because I know I know I know, we all feel the joy whether we can bear it, of Love, Family, Friendship and Kindness, of Giving and Receiving, of knowing we are here for a reason, to spread it, and to sprinkle joy as freely as a child will pour sugar on a cookie.

So let us go forth now in faith, and with Love, and enjoy the season. Please help me, best beloved, with your good spirit and faithful reasons. May your days be merry and bright each season, no matter the circumstance of our earthly plight; ‘tis the season.

Your days will be merry and bright each day you choose them to be thus with delight. This is my wish for you all. I say so only because I must. This is my flight. Into reason, for the season, and every day.

--PPM

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Lascivious

Lascivious
26 August 2011
Lascivious. Now there is a word to ponder. Having used it freely in my life, my mis-use is yet another snafu I must live with all my days. Oye, there are worse things, yet this lil’ word forced me to reflect on what my grandmother must have thought when I was using it in the stories I told her. Only because I liked the word (and like it still) back then I would pepper it anywhere I could, because I thought it sounded so lovely. And it does. Say it out loud: Lascivious. Ahhh, the creamy curl of the mouth and tongue it takes just to say it is enchanting.

Unfortunately only today did I look it up in the dictionary, yes, a real hard-back, paper-turning dictionary, the OED at that. Now I am stumped. On this day I learned the innuendo that stellar word lascivious conveys, or rather what it is supposed to convey anyway. It just did not convey to me. Ooops but oh well, little did I know anything other than ‘oh what a pretty little word that is I can use and enjoy for emphasis.’ It seemed harmless enough for a pre-teen to use with her grandmother, as if it were a good substitute for a word like ‘fervor in great detail’ or something such as that. Now I know, or so am told, I was talking to my grandmother in terms she could have deemed way too saucy for such a ‘little young girl from B County’ as she used to call me.

Now I see how it drips sexiness just rolling off the tongue. Why have I not noticed this before now? Basically it carries LUST in its definition. How many times did I say something or someone was ‘lasciviously loveable’ or some-such to my grandmother I wonder? And what did she think I meant if and when I did? Oh well, she did not chide me for it. Maybe she thought it was just a ‘pretty word’ as did I? She knew I was innocent. Yet she knew the meaning of words as well as a child knows how you feel, no matter what you say.

Lascivious is pretty as words go, unlike say ‘putrid’ or ‘repugnant’ or ‘bile’ – you know, such words that do not roll off the tongue easily or beautifully?

Lust is not nearly as pretty a word as lascivious. So why does language make room for both I wonder? To trick me, that must by the reason. Yes, that must be it: to trick a silly unknowing teenager attempting to be eloquent.

Aahhh, the trickery of language has been my bane more than once. Words can be so strict. Perhaps that is why we need some words which are more subtle than others to suggest the same or similar meaning?

This American-English language is tripping me up constantly. As a youngster I actually said the phrase out loud, at the supper table of my very first boyfriend of all things, I said,
Oh that was delicious. I am as full as a tick on a bull’s sack.

I meant well, of course, praising this delicious meal Mrs. Penry had cooked. One could be no other than thankful for such delectable well-cooked meals, especially for me knowing they were as full of the love with which my grandmother cooked. Love true love cooking; that is our heritage. Yet alas, my comment: Talk about OYE! A hush ensued at the supper table followed by roars of laughter upon my ‘bull’s sack’ comment, which I had heard somewhere thinking it adornment, most likely.

“What is so funny?” I thought. Obviously I did not have a clue what a bull’s sack was, but you best believe I know now and will not forget it. Luckily, the people at that table are alive still to remind me: of fun, good meals, great family and the importance of laughter. Always accustomed to a good laugh at my expense, I am all for good-hearted laughter without malice, what ever the cause, so, it has been joy, this particular mis-use of language I picked up from my grandfather (somewhere?) inadvertently. We have enjoyed that language-snafu at my expense for more than 20 years. I am grateful for the memories…of childhood and all. Yet I cannot get my grandmother back to explain to her, I knew not what I said when I spoke of a boy and said “Lascivious” amid his description. Still something tells me, she knew, and she wanted me to discover for myself this one of many. She knew I loved words as much as she, and yes it took me a while but finally, dear grandmother o’ mine, I get it. And you know what? It is fine. It did not make me a young harlot.

It is not so strong as to defame a young Lady’s character in even the smallest of towns. So I am thankful she did not correct me or direct me. We must learn on our own the smallest of details. My brother told me upon having our child that I must learn to ‘choose my battles’ if I wanted to maintain a peaceful home as we rear/raise our child to become the best we can be. This has helped me in so many ways. I wonder how many things my parents and grandparents let slide, just to make sure I figured it out for myself, what is right and wrong? There are big issues and then there are simple things complex such as words. Simple words.

Words: they soothe, they heal, they can hurt and they peel. They peel back layers of understanding and, on the flip side include countless opportunities for misunderstanding. As for the concept of words and understanding: with the years I become more keenly aware, how the misunderstood words I use refine or undermine me.
--PPM